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From the Ted Talk by June Tangney: What's the difference between guilt and shame?
Unscramble the Blue Letters
Yes, I guess it depends whose expectations you're thinking of. If it's our own expectations, maybe they weren't retalisic, or maybe we expected too much. I think that in this wlrod now, which moevs so fast, I mean — everybody's overloaded. There's something wrong there! About measuring up to other people's eptiectaoxn, that's a really, really important one, and I think it's critical to separate out what other people's expectations are of you and what your own expectations are, what your own values are. And we care about what loved ones and other people think about us, but ultimately, we want to be true to our own values and be sensitive to others who may have different feelings, different ideas. Explain to the other person, "You know, you expect me to do X, I understand that you'd like me to do that, but I'm doing Y, and this is why. It's really iapotmnrt to me."
Open Cloze
Yes, I guess it depends whose expectations you're thinking of. If it's our own expectations, maybe they weren't _________, or maybe we expected too much. I think that in this _____ now, which _____ so fast, I mean — everybody's overloaded. There's something wrong there! About measuring up to other people's ___________, that's a really, really important one, and I think it's critical to separate out what other people's expectations are of you and what your own expectations are, what your own values are. And we care about what loved ones and other people think about us, but ultimately, we want to be true to our own values and be sensitive to others who may have different feelings, different ideas. Explain to the other person, "You know, you expect me to do X, I understand that you'd like me to do that, but I'm doing Y, and this is why. It's really _________ to me."
Solution
- expectation
- world
- important
- realistic
- moves
Original Text
Yes, I guess it depends whose expectations you're thinking of. If it's our own expectations, maybe they weren't realistic, or maybe we expected too much. I think that in this world now, which moves so fast, I mean — everybody's overloaded. There's something wrong there! About measuring up to other people's expectation, that's a really, really important one, and I think it's critical to separate out what other people's expectations are of you and what your own expectations are, what your own values are. And we care about what loved ones and other people think about us, but ultimately, we want to be true to our own values and be sensitive to others who may have different feelings, different ideas. Explain to the other person, "You know, you expect me to do X, I understand that you'd like me to do that, but I'm doing Y, and this is why. It's really important to me."
Frequently Occurring Word Combinations
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people feel |
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feel bad |
3 |
feel shame |
3 |
feel guilt |
3 |
bad person |
2 |
Important Words
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